My Story

I never thought I would have a problem getting pregnant. My mom had always told me the boys would be there, so I maintained a laser focus on my education. I was told I had fibroids, but they were small. Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS) did not seem like a huge issue either.

After five, expensive, weary, and complicated cycles of in vitro fertilization (IVF), numerous frozen embryo transfer (FET) procedures, and three painful miscarriages, we had to step away from the current road, and re-evaluate our options. Hello, Adoption! Despite what we’d been through, the adoption process did not come without its challenges. First came elation when were matched with our first birth mom, then disappointment when she decided to keep her child. Praise God, another opportunity presented itself, and Romans 8:28 was made manifest. At 47 years young, I became the proud mother of a beautiful baby girl, and we are forever grateful for this ultimate gift of life and parenthood.

Our experience on this journey prompted me to think about the paucity of candid, straight forward information available for those contemplating adoption. Our experience shone a light on how many adoption agencies do not have an independent, separate advocate for both the birth mom and the presumptive parents. It was through our experience that I realized how ill-equipped adoption agencies are to provide a comprehensive understanding of health concerns in the birth mom’s medical history and how a particular condition may impact that unborn child over time. This lack of medical expertise on staff often leaves if to the presumptive parents to hunt down clues and piece together a narrative to make the best-informed decision they can make regarding the adoption.

Our revelations along the road to parenthood through adoption is what motivated me to write my book, “Adoption Is An Option: Your Step-by-Step Guide to Growing Your Family. I want to help make the adoption process easier to understand and navigate through. I want to guide them to a better understanding of health conditions the birth mom may have and how the conditions can impact the baby to be adopted.